“I ain’t lookin’ for praise or pity,I ain’t comin’ ’round searchin’ for a crutch, I just want someone to talk to, And a little of that human touch, Just a little of that human touch.” Human Touch, Bruce Springsteen, 1992
Emotional Intelligence (EQ) is often considered the secret ingredient for success both in personal and professional life. It’s the ability to recognize, understand and manage your emotions, while simultaneously being attuned to the emotions of others. Fortunately, EQ is not a fixed trait. Like any skill, it can be developed and refined.
Here are 6 simple actions anyone can take to develop their EQ.
Practice Self Awareness. Self-Awareness is the cornerstone of EQ and remember awareness precedes change. This involves recognizing and understanding your own emotions. Some actions you can take to develop self-awareness include practicing mindfulness, journaling our thoughts and seeking feedback from trusted colleagues. These simple but effective actions can be included into any daily routine.
Manage your emotions: Self-Regulation. Once you’re aware of your emotions, the next step is to learn how to regulate them effectively. To enhance your self-regulation practice mindfully pausing and breathing, using positive self-talk or affirmations, and practicing stress-reduction techniques like meditation, yoga, or exercise(s).
Empathy: Understanding others. Empathy is the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. To nurture empathy practice active listening, putting yourself in the shoes of others, and asking lots of open-ended questions.
Social Skills: Navigating Relationships. Developing strong social skills is crucial for building and maintaining positive relationships. To Improve your social skills develop effective communications skills, conflict resolutions skills, and your networking skills.
Continuous Learning and Practice. Enhancing your EQ is an ongoing process. To continue your growth, you should read and educate yourself on aspects of EQ, seek mentorship or coaching, and finally incorporate these learnings in your daily interactions with colleagues.
Reflect and Assess Progress. Regularly assess your progress in developing your EQ. Are you more aware of your emotions? Are you better at regulating them and understanding the emotions of others? Reflect on your experiences and consider what you can improve.
Developing your EQ is an on-going process that takes time and effort. It’s an investment in your personal and professional growth. It can enhance your relationships, your decision-making, and your overall well-being. By consistently practicing self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and developing your social skills, you can unlock your potential and become a more emotionally intelligent person. Any leader worth their salt will set annual goals for themselves to develop just a little of that human touch.
If you or any of your team would like to discuss developing your EQ, please drop me an email and we can discuss the next steps.